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My wife might be going through a mid-life crisis. She is faithful to me without a doubt. Sometimes it's like we are the only 2 in the world, other times we are a million miles away. Her career did not turn out as planned, we have been try to conceive for 9mths. no luck, She has flirted but kept it at that. She loves me i know, i am doing everything possible to keep her happy and excited. Any ideas or advice, is this going to pass soon, going nuts and getting very depressed. she is my soulmate.
just tell her how much you love her,for many women they feel les female if they cant conceive
Maybe she scared if she cant give u a child,look keep talking to her but make sure she feels you love her matter what
Pray for her. Life don't always go as plan. Take her to see or rent the new movie Fireproof it will help y'all.
Talk to her and make her feel that you love her so much! Take her out to dinner, movies, plan surprise vacations for her. Try to take her mind off of things that make her depressed. Do thte things you both used to do when u first met up, take her to the same places you used to go. Spark up the love. Surprise her with the th ings she likes....
Just sit her down and talk to her. I know as a guy that seems like a horrible idea. But woman like that sort of thing. If you feel awkward talking about it then start the conversation by saying that you're not sure your wording is going to be right the first time but to bare with you. Women like to talk about issues it's the way they're made SentinelSource.com | An Online Edition of The Keene Sentinel ::
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No one knows how long it's going to last so be prepared to be there for her in the thick of it. Take trips together. Do things with her that she enjoys (crafts, dancing, whatever it is she wants to do). The key is to minimize her stress level. If she likes to take 3 hor bubble baths, let her... Don't forget hugs and kisses.
Best wishes to you both.
Ask her what she wants.
Take time with her, do something special. Make sure you don't make her feel like really awkward or corner her!
Trying for 9 months and how old are you guys if she is going through a mid life crisis? I am in my mid 20s and have been trying for 2 years so don't let that get her upset. Life is not always the way we planned it. Everything happens for a reason. Things can be upsetting, but if you are really worried you should go seek professional counseling.
I personally think it will pass soon.
But if she loves you and you love her you shouldn't need to keep her happy and excited because you should already be happy together.
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she has her mind elsewhere about her job and shes probably starting to realize that shes getting older and theres only so much time to be able to change her career. take her out to do something that goes along with the career that she really wanted to do, it will probably make her happy. for example, if she wanted to be a singer, take her to a concert, if she likes comedy take her to a show. but make it a suprise.
Can you afford to take a very romantic vacation? Besides rekindling the flame, many babies are conceived under those types of circumstances, where everyone is relaxed and focused on each other.
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she may feel she is disappointing you by not being able to get pregnant. Give her time it is very frustrating when you are trying to concieve and cant.
try taking a vacation! I know that helped my parents when things were getting a little rough - and they definitely rekindled that spark :) try a romantic destination, or someplace meaningful to both of you - my parents went to switzerland last year, where my dad proposed, it was very romantic, and just what they needed...good luck babe!!
she could just be upset with her career and trying to get pregnant. some women know what they want and when it doesn't happen they can get pretty down about it. give her some space and time yet let her know you are there for her
it doens't sound like your relationship is in jeopardy. trying to conceive is a stressful time, and stress can put a damper on ANY relationship. just keep trying. if it doesn't happen in another 6 months, seek fertility counseling. as for the stress, talk about everything! it can do wonders. and just be each other's support system. that's what marriage is all about.
Do you ignore your wife? Do you make time for her? I ended a 4 year relationship with a man I thought was my soul mate, after we moved in together, because I thought he wasn't interested in me. He never made time for me, he put his socializing with his friends ahead of me, his career always ahead of me, his hobbies ahead of me--everything. Then he would want to be intimate, and I couldn't do that to myself.
Here's a suggestion if you can relate to that at all--take her for a weekend to a bed and breakfast or somewhere you know she'll like. No kids...make it all about her. See how it goes.
Unfortunately, if she is still cold, you will have to keep trying.
Even more unfortunate, if she does not warm up eventually, she may have lost interest, and women control relationships with their interest levels. If that's the case, go to counseling together. Also, assure her that so many people's careers get messed up (mine for example!).
Women will not be intimate with someone they care about when thigns are emotionally wrong. I know from experience.
question is what are you doing about it?
she needs to feel love and belonging, what do you do about it?
she need to feel special, what do you do about it?
she has pains and aches, what do you do about it?
she needs to feel happy, what do you do about it?
I doubt it is a "mid-life crisis", she is probably just getting frustrated with no luck trying to conceive. Just be there for her and everything will be ok...if she feels like you are acting strange, she is going to seem more distant. So, just be your normal self.
how about that treatment at the docter where they get your sperm out and put it in her so she can have a baby you should talk your docter
Women need to feel appreciated and beautiful.
Tell her and show her how you feel and how much you appreciate her.
We tried for a long time to have a child. When it isn't happening you feel like less of a woman no matter what anyone says. You see all of these women having babies and you get even more depressed. I hated my job. I finally got pregnant while on Christmas break from my job. 6 months after our son was born I quit the job I hated and got one that I love.
Take her on a trip and just relax.
Get her flowers, make her dinner.
Reassure her of the positive things.
See a therapist hun. If your doing everything you can, maybe theres nothing you can do.
Ask her to see a doctor with you. Don't single her out.
She is probs jst frustrated bt just talk to her about it, over a nice dinner that you have made get roses and put them on the table with candles and stuff.
what evidence do you have that she's going through a midlife crisis? you haven't posted anything to illustrate why you think she is.
The first thing that came to mind is to get counseling, especially if it is making you nuts. Go to marriage counseling.
You explain what's going on in her life, but you tell us nothing about her behavior. Has she lost her sex drive? Is that what this is about?
If she's old enough to go through a mid-life crisis, she may be past the ideal child bearing years. Have you two been checked out by a doctor? Identify the problem.
If she's unhappy, that unhappiness is likely coming from within her. Whatever those issues are should be addressed by her. You jumping through hoops is kind and thoughtful, but is only likely to make you feel more frustrated and helpless.
You need to be very honest with her and tell her that you are suffering and getting depressed because you don't feel truly loved by her as a husband. It's time to be open and honest before the marriage is damaged...
If you have been trying to concieve for 9 months she is just probably depressed. I'm sure she loves you so much but she is probably hurting really bad right now. When a woman wants a child and it doesn't seem like it's going to happen then it really hurts(like more than anything in the world). If her job didn't turn out the way she wants then that just adds to it. I'm sorry to say that it probably won't pass until she actually gets pregnant. Just let her know you are there for her and love her more than anything. Just always do nice things for her.
This doesn't have anything to do with the question but the conceiving part. I'm not sure if you have tried this or not but you may want to buy a fertility monitor. It tells you exactly when she is fertile and went to have sex. It works believe me. Good luck on having a baby and her depression.
Its hard to say...I would let her take a "break" sometimes that is best. Spending time apart will make you both remember why you are together .
( I went through something very similar myself )
marriage counseling helps too.
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