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So we picked up Rocky on Thursday night. We were so delighted just to have him with us finally. Yesterday (fri) I noticed he wasn't responding to loud noises, but didn't pay too much attention (partly due to exhaustion from being up with him all night). Well today it became very apparent, Rocky is deaf. I took him to my in-laws (they are human doctors) who had talked to their vet friend. They checked him out, and concluded he is deaf. I have spent the entire morning and afternoon crying. I can't look after a deaf dog, I feel like the most horrible person in the world. I love him so much, but how can I care for a deaf dog, it's not fair to him if I am not prepared to look after a special needs dog. I just don't think I could do it. We are taking him back tonight, I can't stop crying. The person we got him from said she has a couple other pups that are still available, but we aren't sure if we are going to get one. Am I a bad person for taking him back? God I feel awful =(
Here is our new baby Rocky (the second) (sorry about the red eye)
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we are packing up to move for next weekend, so Rocky's grandma and grandpa are puppy sitting this afternoon, but I will get some better pictures of him tonight
What is going to happen to Rocky if you are returning him to his breeder?
Is the breeder going to place him?
I don`t think i could return him , but that`s me.
Kristy,
You are doing the right thing. Do not feel guilty about returning Rocky. Better to return him right away than before you form a lasting attachment to a dog that is more than you are prepared to handle. You shouldn't keep a dog because you are afraid of what others may think or because you don't know what the breeder is going to do with it. Although we all need to be compassionate and concerned, that really isn't your problem. There will be another dog for you that is perfect. :flowers:
I wouldn't return him myself because dogs can learn sign language...and I have a hearing loss myself. They are smart, even when deaf, just needs more communication needs like learning to sign. My BTs are hearing, and they know some sign. :)
she doesn't need a guilt trip. keeping the puppy because you feel guilty is not in the best interest of the dog. raising a deaf dog is very difficult, better to return him than to end up frustrated and angry because of the problems that will rise in the training process.
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My best guess is that she planned to give me the keys on her last day there . "Your Honor, Ms. BAD FRIEND SAID THIS, BUT HERE IS WHAT REALLY HAPPENED .
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She does not have to feel guilty. I understand it`s difficult to raise a deaf puppy byt all i
am saying is that i would want to know if the breeder is going to place the puppy. Some breeders would put a deaf puppy down and i don`t think i could " forgive " myself , if i had returned the puppy.....
your new little one is pretty darn cute!
Sorry that you have had to go through this upsetting time. You did the best thing for Rocky.
Congrats on Rocky II - he is beautiful!
she doesn't need a guilt trip. keeping the puppy because you feel guilty is not in the best interest of the dog. raising a deaf dog is very difficult, better to return him than to end up frustrated and angry because of the problems that will rise in the training process.
thank-you =)
kristy, i'm so sorry to hear about rocky's disability. my heart is heavy for you, but i believe that you are showing your true love for him by realizing that this is something you may not be ready for and allowing the breeder to place him with someone who may better suit his needs. we'll be thinking of you.
Kristy, don't feel guilty. You love Rocky, and realize that you can't provide the best home for him. It can be very challenging- sassy isn't completely deaf, but is very hard of hearing, and combined with BT stubborness...oof. You will get the right puppy-sorry Rocky wasn't it. :flowers:
mom2Kozmo has a good point- you just may find your BT in a rescue. I wish I had known about them before I got mine, but any more BT's I gt will be rescues.
My sister has a deaf dog the breeder gave it to her otherwise he was going to put the dog to sleep. You are not a bad person, the dog is very difficult to deal with. They have tried to give him up but no one will take a deaf dog. He will most definately be a special needs dog.Good luck:)
Very sorry to hear about Rocky.
I have no experience with deaf dogs, although I know of a lady trainer who does clicker training with deaf dogs (with a laser light instead of clicker).
Did your breeder know Rocky was deaf? How old is Rocky? Not to make matters worse, but it seems like a breeder would know if one of their dogs were deaf--I mean, you figured it out within a day of having him.
I agree with others on the board that you should probably return him before you get even more attached to him...especially if you aren't prepared to work with a special needs dog.
Good luck with whatever decision you make. And don't feel guilty about returning him. Just remember that having a dog is a lifetime commitment...They can live upwards of 15 years.
Again, good luck.
What is going to happen to Rocky if you are returning him to his breeder?
Is the breeder going to place him?
I don`t think i could return him , but that`s me.
she said she knows a lady who will take him, i don't know 100% what will happen
this is why I try to get people to look for breeders who do BAER tests on all their dogs. I feel for you, raising a deaf dog is a special challenge, so returning him is better for him than attempting to keep him if you're not prepared for special needs training.
she doesn't need a guilt trip. keeping the puppy because you feel guilty is not in the best interest of the dog. raising a deaf dog is very difficult, better to return him than to end up frustrated and angry because of the problems that will rise in the training process. Getrting into a new feild of work::
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I'm so happy to hear that things are going well with you and your Rocky II. please post pictures of this little guy!
Oh Kristy, I'm so sorry!! Please don't feel guilty, you're doing what's best for him and I agree, you are being VERY responsible by realizing a special needs dog is too much for you. Time will heal your broken heart...
And DON't listen to anyone that says you shouldv'e kept him. Only YOU know what YOU can handle. You are NOT a bad person!!
You did make the right decision. I know how challenging it must have been for you. A few months ago we tried to adopt a dog who we thought only had a kennel cough. Unfortunately, she had pneumonia and we were unable to keep her at the risk of making our other two dogs sick. I am happy to hear how well things are going with you new little Rocky. Please post pics.
Kristy, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I am really clueless about this issue...What are the needs/challenges of raising a deaf dog?
Kristy, I feel your pain. We waited months and months for our original Sophie. We finally had her all picked out and the day before we were to pick her up, the breeder had to take her to the emergency vet, only to find that she had megaesophagus (sp.). We were heartbroken, and I cried and cried too. I had already fallen in love with her, but had to make the responsible decision of whether or not we could give her the 24 hour care she needed. We passed on her and waited a few more months for our current Sophie. It did have a happy ending, as she was placed with a family who had another megaesphagus dog, and who would have her with them 24 hours a day. (They owned their own business and both dogs went to work with them.)
You did the right thing....don't beat yourself up. Wait for a healthy pup. I'm sorry you had to make this decision. :( I know it's not an easy one to make.
My step-son & daughter-in-law got his mom a second Boston last year for her birthday. She is half white and half black faced. They picked her because she was cute and had not a clue about the deafness gene. She is totally deaf. Thankfully Darla, my step-son's mom, knows sign language and has been able to teach her. Ella has been very hard to train in all ways. I agree with you on taking Rocky back. I love Ella to death but I couldn't have taken the stress. He will be okay. It takes a lot of love from you to admit that you can't keep him and want to give him a chance at a better life. You will always have Rocky in your heart.
thats so sad :( If you are wanting a dog right away I know I was reading the rescue forum on here and there was mention of why over full rescues without any applications even pending how sad...go give a look through the rescue area on here and maybe someone will touch your heart in a special way
I agree with Kristi and Kelly. You need to do what is right for you. I wanted to adopt a deaf dog from a rescue organization in Austin, TX about 3 years ago. I couldn't because I had an unsure job situation at the time. I always wondered about her and if I had made the right decision. Thinking back on the person I am now and the person I was then, it was the right decision for me. I wouldn't have Dottie today if I would've taken Mercedes back then. Don't beat yourself up. You show how much you care by recognizing that a deaf dog is too much to handle for you at this time. My mom has a blind dog (who developed the blindness suddenly) and it is a challenge. Keep you chin up.
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Definitely do what you feel is best for you & what you're prepared to handle.
RE: "It's very true about the hand signals - our Fury is a "hearing" dog (who has selective hearing) responds 100% of the time to hand or physical signals and only 50% to voice commands."
Does Fury have teenager selective hearing, only hearing what she wants to hear like "cookie" or "walk" or is she really hard of hearing? How did you teach hand signals? It makes sense that dogs would respond to visual signals rather than language. Isn't that how they naturally respond to their world, through gestures and postures?
I'm glad to hear you have a new Rocky and the other pup rejoined his litter mates joyfully. You did the right thing for all of you.
she said she knows a lady who will take him, i don't know 100% what will happen
I am glad....I hope she does adopt him. :)
Kristy, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I am really clueless about this issue...What are the needs/challenges of raising a deaf dog?
Here's an interesting site I found: http://www.deafdogs.org/faq/myths.php
It's very true about the hand signals - our Fury is a "hearing" dog (who has selective hearing) responds 100% of the time to hand or physical signals and only 50% to voice commands.
No, you are not a bad person. You are actually being responsible by realizing that you are not prepared to care for a deaf dog. My suggestion would be to look for a responsible breeder who BAER tests breeding stock before acquiring a new puppy. I'm sorry for you and Rocky.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. Know you did the right thing. Your Rocky II is adorable. I love red BTs
Thank you everyone for your kind words, it means so much. We drove back to the breeder last night ( I cried the entire way). When we put the puppy back with his sisters, he didn't even care, he just started to play. It made it a bit easier to know that he wasn't as attached to us as we were to him. I left the decision to my soon to be hubby ( 6 more weeks until the wedding), he chose another pup, and I have to admit I am glad he did. So now we have Rocky II. This puppy is so much different, although the same age, it's amazing how much difference there is. He hears EVERYTHING! it's awesome. He slept in his crate last night for 6 hours with out a peep, and didn't make a mess either! I am stil really upset about the first puppy, but the breeder assured me that she has a home for him, she knows a lady with a deaf BT that might be willing to take the puppy. I wish I could of kept him, but having this new guy, I realize what a big challange it would of been to have a deaf dog. I still feel guilty, but I know we had to do what we had to do. thank you everyone for your amazing support!
I am so sorry to hear about Rocky. When I first decided on Nitro, who has one white ear, I got some PMs from people on here warning me about the possible deafness gene. I am glad they did that and I appreciated it. I know I could not have handled a deaf dog either. There is no shame in admitting it and then finding them a home that can handle it.
I lucked out and the boy can hear just fine. The breeder I got him from does not do the BAER testing and if I get another BT, I will wait and find a breeder near me that does.
Kristy, this happened to me last year. I fell in love with a beautiful puppy with a 1/2 white face. sadly, she was deaf. the breeder took her back and found her a wonderful home with a family who had another older deaf Boston who knew how to care for her much better than I could. then I found Sushi's breeder, who does all the genetic testing. do the right thing for you and you will find the right puppy - it will take time but will be worth it. don't beat yourself up for this. Easy for me to say, right? well I think I cried more that weekend than any other time in my life. there's nothing any of us can say to make this better for you, but if you know in your heart that this puppy isn't right for you, then do what you need to do and keep looking for the right puppy. you will find him/her.
i think we might do that, unfortunatly they don't have the facilities here, the only place that does that test is 3 hours away. perhaps we just will stay puppyless for a while and get a dog from the spca one day, i don't know, i am not even thinking straight anymore...way too emotional
I'm sorry you went through that, but I'm so glad that you were able to get another baby!
I know it's heartbreaking to return a dog that you aren't prepared to care for due to his condition. I empathize w/ you. But, there are plenty other dogs out there to better suit your needs & lifestyle. Don't feel guilty about it. Good luck in finding another dog.
I can only imagine what your going through, Iam so sorry. I guess my question would be. why didnt the breeder notice this puppy was deaf ?
 Nobody understands...any help please?
 50 points for someone willing to do this!!!!!!!!!!?
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Really really really bad day :(