Am I being fair or not:
I loved this guy as a person, I wasn't totally in love, but he had a good personality. What bothered me was he didn't give me that sense of "safety" that I'll be working hard for in the future to have a somewhat decent life. I'll never be rich or anything but I'm willing to work as much as I can to reach some kind of stability. So, this person probably had a different view on these matters and we wouldn't be compatible. I have a friend, for instance, who is finishing college and struggling just like I am, but I'd feel "safe" if I were with him. It's really hard to explain, it's like you want to be with someone who has a clear direction and makes you feel comfortable knowing he's trying his best, you know what I mean?
So, is it ok to feel this way?
Thanx.
we all want a man to make us feel protected, safe, secure, etc.
beware the catch though, love. lots of men who are big initially on 'looking after' u turn out to be control freaks and abusers - same bit if hes got some 'vision' for you both, thats a red flag love
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find the healthy balance next time before you commit there are men who will make u feel safe but not control your every move
Your future needs to be "safe" but you also want to love the person your with. Material things are nothing compared to being with someone you love. If you really love someone you will be satisfied living with them in a tent. If you accept what life has to offer, then the rest will take care of itself. You also need to stop feeling so insecure about things. Love life for what it has to offer and don't worry about what it doesn't offer. You will waste your time trying to get to some place that you were never meant to be. Make sense?
Sounds like you have already made up your mind and are just searching for validation.
It is normal to feel that way, but how will it effect your life in the future, how can it effect those that are around you. Its important to make final decision and be sure it is what you want, because these mistakes cost you way to much (I don't mean just in monetary value), and hurt way to much. It is great idea to consult God in such situation, in sincere personal prayer.
You can't choose who you love...so if you don't love this guy, then that is your heart's decision. Wanting stability seems like as unselfish a reason as any to not be in love with someone. When you don't have that sense of safety with a person, and that's what you long for, forcing yourself to be o.k. with that person isn't fair to either him or you. The end result would be resentment.
that is one thing that you shouldn't give up on. you know what you want in life witha partner and you should not sway from it. You seem to have your head on straight and you want a partner with the same qualities. theres nothing wrong with that. more girl should be like that. you have what it takes to be successful in life if you dont sway away from it. go girl.
No one can guarantee the future.............except God....pray and live your life.
look elsewhere, if he is your friend keep it this way. you already made up your mind, why r u asking us to tell you what to do, if you have already everything figured it out?
It sounds like this guy is a friend but is not marriage material for you. Look elsewhere for love.
What you are talking about is something like "future stability" That you see this person going somewhere, he's not there now but you have every reason to believe he will do whatever and has whatever it takes to get there and YES, absolutely...that's a big deal. You are totally normal to feel that way. Get a man that has potential.
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Ladies, is it normal to feel this way?